Success Trait: Letting the Right People Help You

Attempting to be a success all alone will work for a while, but I have learned you can’t become the success you desire to be all by yourself. There will be times when you have to grind things out all by your lonesome. But then there will be the times when you will have to identify the right people you need to help your dream of success come true.

To put things another way, would you be in school if someone, years ago, didn’t send you there? Would you even wake up if someone didn’t demand you get your butt out of bed and be productive? Would you even be graduating if teachers didn’t beg you to learn the material so you can pass the class? Would you run as fast if a coach didn’t yell at you to get it moving? Would you swim so well if a coach didn’t scream for you to kick your legs for hours? Would you be playing that instrument if you didn’t have someone in your life demanding you practice until you have the notes correct? Trust me, you have had a lot of right people helping you. You need to view them as such. There is no way people become great in a void. There are only a few people in the history of the world so intrinsically motivated they kept fighting for what they wanted no matter what. Even then, they had something or someone earlier in their life who motivated them. The rest of us have to depend on the right people to help us get to where we want to go. The worst part about being outside of high school is you meet more people who tell you what you want to hear, rather than what is good for you to hear. Many of the high school teachers I know are good at telling kids what they need to hear. No matter how bad it was, teachers are excellent at assessing your situation and continually pushing you to be your best.

When I was coaching, there was no money for an assistant coach, so I had to do it all myself. Since, in a previous coaching stint, I had tasted the sweet nectar of being able to travel to a state championship, I wanted nothing less than that for my new team. During that time as a coach, I did it all by myself. I had very little help, not that I needed or asked for it. I developed the off-season training sessions and postseason workouts, I developed our fund raising program, designed new uniforms, produced all the game videos (you can view this on YouTube under “Pierce Brunson”), and planned senior night. My players had the luxury of just being players, and they excelled. After three years, we had a season that wasn’t up to my expectations and I burned out and quit. Without having the right people in my life to tell me to take a week and chill, I just walked away from the game, and I regretted that decision later on. I did my best to try to save face, but inside I was just bitter.

When you have the right people in your life, they let you be bitter, but they don’t let you do something stupid. They are there to tell you the truth and keep you from acting in a way you will regret.

Respect those working hard to put good information in your brain so you have more to think about than anger or bitterness. The right people will show up if you continue to respect what they are offering.

Let the right people help you with your school work. One of my favorite moments as a teacher is when a student that wasn’t doing so well in class made a decision to become a better student and put in more effort. As their behaviors changed, so did their friends. I noticed when the kids that weren’t doing great wanted to do better, they would ask the better students for help. Nobody is stupid. Once people decide to wake up, and live a successful life, they find any and every way to ask the “smarter” people. It’s amazing that students actually take good advice, but ONLY when they are ready. When you are ready to improve your efforts in life, you have to connect to the right people. You have to ask the students who are good at studying about their study habits. Just like you would find the information to improve in any area, when you want to study better to get better grades, you will find the right people.

By connecting to the right people, you are able to improve your efforts faster because they can tell you the right and wrong ways to study. You know by having better study habits, your grades have a greater chance of improving, so you have to connect to the right people. Connecting to the right people doesn’t mean becoming a burden on them so their grades slip. Your goal is to get enough information you can become self-sufficient, move closer to your desires for success, and, later, help others do the same. Just because you connect once doesn’t mean you will see instant results. Bad habits take time to get rid of. Be patient with yourself and your ability to make positive actions stick.

The above information is from the book Work Ethic: The Right Actions to Create a Successful Lifestyle by Pierce Brunson https://www.createspace.com/4786986

It isn’t what you say, it’s what you do that will create the life you want. The high school years are a great time for students to build valuable and rewarding action characteristics to increase self-esteem and deliver results. While enjoying these years, students should be developing the right mindset to achieve the success they desire in the future. In order for success to happen, for students to have that lifestyle they often speak of wanting, they must become adults with a solid, results-based work ethic. Wasting these four years can’t be a part of the plan. By using their time in high school to build the right actions for a successful lifestyle, students can ensure themselves a bright future, no matter the obstacles they will encounter. Work Ethic is for the high school student expecting to live life successfully, and is willing to do the right growth actions to shape a lifestyle of fulfillment, fun, and results.

Pierce Brunson http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B00I10A3XK , M.Ed., is a graduate of Temple University in Philadelphia, and spends his time working as a mentor and speaker while developing businesses that help improve the high school experience for students and teachers. He has over a decade of experience teaching in the public school system as a high school Social Studies teacher, majoring in World History and Sociology. Pierce believes everyone can do more to help improve the education system in their local communities, which is part of the backbone of any society. Pierce’s advice is simple: stop complaining and do something to help improve the situation. Good people have to stop being afraid to fight for what they believe in. Get in the game, help others, share culture and move the world toward equality and justice. Connect with Pierce at http://www.piercebrunson.com, http://www.fireflyeventphotography.com, and http://www.piercebrunsonphotography.com.

My YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/truthisnear17/videos

 

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Work Ethic: Chapter 1 Decide Now

Decide Now

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. In fact, every day when you wake up will be the first day of the rest of your life. Every day you have the opportunity to make better decisions than you did the day before. You also have the opportunity to make incredibly worse decisions than you did the day before. Decisions should be based on the direction you believe your life should go. This road isn’t going to be filled with perfect times. Once I realized my desired direction, I quickly learned that the road that will lead you to success will be almost entirely imperfect.

There was this crazy time in my life where I thought I would find passion. I didn’t know, however, that passion isn’t something you can find; passion is something you have. You can have it for anything. Have you ever talked with someone who had a strange job, yet you knew they were perfect for it? They shared their passion for the thing they were doing every day. Well, that could be you, but you have to decide. Yes, I enjoy helping high school students and talking with them to work toward the better future they desire, but if no one wanted my services, or if everyone hated my books, I would have to make a decision whether or not I was going to continue to put my passionate energy into something with no return. Ever wonder why people get tired of their job? I don’t believe they hate the job; they just dislike the things they do every day. When it became job time, they didn’t ask themselves any hard questions like, “In three years, am I going to still love it here, or hate it?” These are the things you have to ask yourself if you are going to make the best decisions for you. Sometimes we hate our jobs after a few years because the challenge to learn something new isn’t there, and we think the world owes us discovery. If you get a job, you are agreeing to do what they need you to do in exchange for an agreed upon return. That return is cash and some benefits you may feel are worth your time. This cash helps you purchase the things you desire to have in your life. The more cash you have, the more you can purchase. That is why the term “high paying” job is used so often when talking to high school students. That buzz word seems to make everything about jobs better because of the money, but they aren’t true. Everyone has a price, but that price must be one you can live with. For me, the price of my positive life outlook wasn’t worth staying in the classroom. I knew if I could figure out a way, I could help more students, and that is what my heart really desired.

The best thing you can do is learn what you want out of a situation. Trust me on this. You have to know that if you want to be the boss, the last thing that will happen is your boss giving up their job for you. The system doesn’t work like that, so don’t stay in a job that won’t let you be the boss, even if you have the skills to do so. Find another job that will give you the things you desire.

Pierce Brunson http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B00I10A3XK, M.Ed., is a graduate of Temple University in Philadelphia, and spends his time working as a mentor and speaker while developing businesses that help improve the high school experience for students and teachers. He has over a decade of experience teaching in the public school system as a high school Social Studies teacher, majoring in World History and Sociology. Pierce believes everyone can do more to help improve the education system in their local communities, which is part of the backbone of any society. Pierce’s advice is simple: stop complaining and do something to help improve the situation. Good people have to stop being afraid to fight for what they believe in. Get in the game, help others, share culture and move the world toward equality and justice. Connect with Pierce at http://www.piercebrunson.com, http://www.fireflyeventphotography.com, and http://www.piercebrunsonphotography.com.

My Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/truthisnear17/videos

 

My New Book: Work Ethic

Work Ethic: The Right Actions to Create a Successful Lifestyle
Author Page: http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B00I10A3XK

It isn’t what you say, it’s what you do that will create the life you want. The high school years are a great time for students to build valuable and rewarding action characteristics to increase self-esteem and deliver results. While enjoying these years, students should be developing the right mindset to achieve the success they desire in the future. In order for success to happen, for students to have that lifestyle they often speak of wanting, they must become adults with a solid, results-based work ethic. Wasting these four years can’t be a part of the plan. By using their time in high school to build the right actions for a successful lifestyle, students can ensure themselves a bright future, no matter the obstacles they will encounter. Work Ethic is for the high school student expecting to live life successfully, and is willing to do the right growth actions to shape a lifestyle of fulfillment, fun, and results.

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Pierce Brunson, M.Ed., is a graduate of Temple University in Philadelphia, and spends his time working as a mentor and speaker while developing businesses that help improve the high school experience for students and teachers. He has over a decade of experience teaching in the public school system as a high school Social Studies teacher, majoring in World History and Sociology. Pierce believes everyone can do more to help improve the education system in their local communities, which is part of the backbone of any society. Pierce’s advice is simple: stop complaining and do something to help improve the situation. Good people have to stop being afraid to fight for what they believe in. Get in the game, help others, share culture and move the world toward equality and justice. Connect with Pierce at http://www.piercebrunson.com, http://www.fireflyeventphotography.com, and http://www.piercebrunsonphotography.com.

My Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/truthisnear17/videos

No Magic Wand in the Learning Curve

Chapter 16: There Is No Magic Wand

I really wish that this was a book that gave you a magic wand or silver bullet to your dreams. But it isn’t. Because your journey involves a lot of not knowing, and possibly creating something from nothing, there is no guarantee that you will reach your goals. The only thing you can do is to get these skills in your hand, make a plan, and go for it. That is really all anyone else has. Yes, colleges are set up for people that know “doctor” and they get to take these classes or those, but there is still the risk that they may not make it to that final destination. My approach is for those of us who didn’t fit nicely into a mold of doctor, lawyer, or teacher, but know that our place is out there. 

I wish I could say it will be easy, but it won’t be. I wish I could say that everyone will love your idea, buy it, and you will never see a broke day again. I hope that everyone that reads this book takes the chance on his or her soul’s calling for something great so far in the distant future. But these things may or may not happen. At the writing of this book, I am still in the process of accepting who I get to be every day.  Just because you figure it out doesn’t mean all is good; you now have to put in the work to get there and stay there.

Mind you, this is work. Going for it requires you become something greater than your problems or current situation. It requires that you deflect all the negative talk, and walk with your head held high in public, even if you cry in private. It requires that you fight the good fight, and accept when you have to pivot. It also requires that you go easy on yourself when you don’t get out of bed one day because you feel all is lost. It then requires you to seek the help needed so you can continue your journey to your place in life, even if you finally meet it at age 50.

Because this is hard work, I am going to share with you the list of questions and statement I have asked myself. These are the questions that pop in my head when things don’t seem to be going my way.

  1. Am I ever going to make any real impact on people
  2. Am I being stupid with this goal?
  3. Is this really what I want to do?
  4. Why is it so hard to make a sale?
  5. Why do people know understand that I am trying to help them?
  6. How am I going to pay my rent this month?
  7. How am I going to pay for that?
  8. Are we going to make it?
  9. They (successful people) never go through this type of trouble.
  10. They did it because they are rich.
  11. If I only had the right people.
  12. I am too tired to go on.
  13. I give up!
  14. Maybe really helping kids isn’t what I am supposed to do.
  15. Maybe I will be happier if I go back.
  16. No I really did try!
  17. They make it look so easy.
  18. They (successful people) never have to stay up late at night.

Hopefully you get my point. If not, take this list with you and just start to see how many things you say, as your road to success gets bumpy.

As I continue to find out through daily experiences, there is no shortcut to success. It is a journey, and we really have to be dedicated to accomplishing what we believe is important.

As a final note, and probably the most important: NOTHING IS GUARANTEED. That may be the best advantage you have knowing that everything you do, you may fail because it means that you also have just as good of a chance of succeeding. This isn’t about giving something your best effort. This book is about you seeking your best life by taking a huge risk to grow toward the life you desire. Knowing that nothing is guaranteed should help you to see that you have to put in effort, and stay focused, or you could lose all of your momentum.

So what can I say about work? Well I will say this. If you aren’t working, someone else is and getting ready to do what you could be doing. There are plenty of mountains for all of our dreams to exist.  You just have to be specific with what you want. No sense in taking the life someone is willing to give you because it may not be the life you want. Go out and take the life you desire. This life you seek will make you happy to do the hard work, you won’t be so bothered by the long hours, you won’t miss some of the events that will be a schedule conflict, and you will say it is worth it.

 

This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014.  The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.

Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it.  During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible!  The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them.  Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.

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The Learning Curve of Staying Balanced

Chapter 15: Staying Balanced and Pressing Forward

You will get broken because negative forces are so powerful. But you don’t have to stay broken. Get up and get going again and again. At one of my lowest points as a teacher, I went to at 4-star Orlando hotel and just sat in the pool for, literally, three days. Thank goodness for discount websites and the ability to extend it one more day, because I was a mess. I was broken. I knew the world of teaching that I loved dearly was one I needed to put in my rearview mirror if I wanted to have a chance at my personally defined greatness. There will be days, weeks, months where you are just bummed. You are human. Don’t stay there for long, and try your best to stick with the plan. Since that day, I have learned that a hotel with a pool is the cure for my blues.  Find the cure for your heavy blues. Going for it is difficult and gut wrenching. You are going to need that time to just sulk so you can move forward.

The best part about my sulking is that my family loves it because it means a vacation.

Don’t be too hard on yourself, and continue to press forward so that you will have some form of accomplishment when the sun is back shining in your life.

Here is a list of ways to stay balanced:

  1. Exercise (a brisk walk around the corner is a great way to take a much needed break).
  2. Spend time with family and friends (they may not understand where you are trying to go, but they are still some of your biggest supporters, hang with them for a while).
  3. Purchase something that adds to your happiness (nothing fancy, but if something small makes you feel a bit better then go for it).
  4. Go outside and get some sun (feeling that warmth on your face gives a new meaning to relaxation).
  5. Laugh (laughing to tears is another way to stay balanced on this road of twists and turns).

You should put a lot of effort into staying balanced. It is pretty much the only way to properly press forward on your road to your desired successes. Here are my reasons why you should enjoy a balanced life.

Staying balanced helps people enjoy your company. When we get out of whack, no one likes our company. We become rude, hateful, and are a burden on people that want to hang around us. Be careful to guard your energy and remain as balanced as possible. Earlier in my life, I went through that angry phase where I felt I was working hard, but nothing was panning out. I was a mess to deal with. I was disrespectful to a lot of people, and just an all-around ass. No matter how much of a grouch I became, the world around me continued to crumble until I was alone. Once I was alone for a few months, my anger grew until I was blaming everyone for my shortcomings. Then one day I was just wandering, and found an old book and went to a passage I marked. The passage reminded me that in spite of all that was bad around me, there was no need to take my anger out on others. Those words didn’t sink in until a few months later where I realized that I couldn’t just force things into existence and still be angry and hateful. I had to work on dealing with the many reasons (personal shortcomings) that were causing me to lash out. As I started to deal with my anger, I noticed that certain situations that would cause me to fume before were just bouncing off of me. I realized that the reason those things didn’t bother me was because I started to develop a bigger picture of what I wanted. At that time, I just didn’t want to be angry anymore. Success and a business were a far off thought.

Remember, all of this will take time and baby steps. You will make mistakes and fall back, but you can recover as long as you don’t do anything stupid. To avoid the real troubles of life, working on staying balanced with your big picture in mind will help light your path.

Staying balanced helps you refine the dream. When you work to stay balanced you don’t have to chase the dream so much. You just have to create, and do your thing, and the opportunities will find you. Writing a book is a daunting task, but my life balance is what helps me to enjoy four hours of writing down my thoughts. At times, the words just seem to flow, and when they stop flowing, I stop and move to something else for a brief moment in time.

This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014.  The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.

Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it.  During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible!  The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them.  Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.

Direct Link: https://www.createspace.com/4626501

Follow this blog to enjoy more samples from the book.

 

Thinking vs. Believing by Pierce Brunson

Thinking vs. Believing by Pierce Brunson

On my walk this morning I was faced with realizing that my life was, again, at a turning point. There is nothing like starting a business and working it but there is also nothing like starting a lifestyle and working it. Within the last few months my thoughts have moved from career to lifestyle in such a way that there seems to be another mass of information I need to process in order to fully understand my journey.

This morning I was thinking about my actions and what I believed about my abilities. As I am moving into the motivational speaking for high schools part of my lifestyle change I have been challenged on my beliefs (since kids can sense BS). I believe in my mission but there are times where thinking gets in the way. I have noticed that there are distinct differences between thinking and believing.

1. Thinking is easy to mold and shape like clay. Beliefs are very concrete and require a destruction of their foundation to change. This is why it takes people, including myself, to make the right changes for our life (even when the thoughts of what to do show up).

2. Thinking the same thing over time solidifies our beliefs even if we don’t realize the small bits of bad information are hardening to our belief system. Like barnacles or plaque we don’t notice until it is too late.

3. We have more power over our thinking very early in our lives than we believe. This is why kids are ready to take on the world at a young age, the belief of failure hasn’t taken hold yet. I believe we need to help students fight this negative thought building before it sets in.

4. You have to surround yourself with life thinkers if you want to change. This is why high school is so powerful. Every adult there is rooting on kids and willing to work with the students to see them succeed/ graduate. Even if you have a not so great home life school is a refuge for so many. The reason is that high school is all about being and achieving success (graduation). The world after graduation isn’t so supportive. You have to FIND the right people to get support while being the right person to give support.

5. Thinking my shape us but belief causes our actions. We only act on our belief system. Point blank, period. As the saying goes “Whether you can or can’t, both are equally true.”

Take some time this week to think and challenge your thinking about yourself and start to remove thought plaque from your belief system. You will have to do some work but you will find that a positive belief system is what you have always desired. Share, comment, follow.

I will start a video series on Thinking vs. Believing for high school students on 4/10/2014 on my YouTube page here https://www.youtube.com/user/truthisnear17/videos

-Pierce

Author: Rock The Crowd: How The Cool Teachers Inspire More Students, Earn More Respect, and Become Lifelong Mentors. https://www.createspace.com/4703109

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