For Academic Success, Get Over Your Demons

I believe everyone has a story and, if told correctly and with enough emotion, people will forgive you for not being the person you really want to be. You could tell a story so tragic the average person would understand there is no way you could be a success because of your past. You probably have a list of people who will let you off the hook if you had a dream, and didn’t accomplish it. They would give you the standard responses like, “At least you tried”, “Having your own business isn’t for everyone”, “Just get any job”, “Well, your parents did drink heavily”, or “You know, you did have to deal with a lot of verbal abuse.” I am not making light of any negative situation like abuse or addiction, but at some point, you will have to deal with whatever life has dealt you. You will have to face all the thoughts and personal issues that go along with any negative behavior that was, or wasn’t, your fault. These demons are a part of everyone’s lives. In order to have the success you desire, you will have to learn to heal and fight off those negative issues been placed in your life.

If you don’t have any of these things going on, demons can still form in your life. When demons form, they get labeled as drama. Drama is defined as things that take good energy away from people and replace it with thoughts, ideas, and actions of negative energy. Much of social networking these days has a lot of drama. Some days can be filled with positive vibes and posts, but there are days when people just want to vent their frustrations with the world. These posts can be a harmless way for people to vent, but they can take away your positive energy if you read too many. If you are in the position where a lot of drama is coming your way, know that a peaceful life involves the ability to deal properly with these situations. No matter how big the demon, or small the drama, you are going to have to rid your life of both. Either way, you will always have some things to deal with or avoid as you move down the path to your desired success.

Getting over your demons means leaving the past where it is, and learning from it. We all make mistakes. Some are huge and some are small. Some are once, and others are daily. Some mistakes will cause us, and others, a great deal of pain, and others can be forgiven fairly easily. No matter where you are now in your high school career, you have to start putting some of the negatives in life in the past to move forward.

When I was working with a group of students a few years ago, I noticed they would say, very early in the day, it was a bad day. In the life of a teen, I can understand when something deemed negative happens it can seem like the end of the world. However, that is rarely the case. One day, I attacked this thought. I asked them to tell me how many hours are in a day. They said 24. Then I asked how many hours they slept. With various hours, we came up with an average of 6. That is too little for high school kids, but oh well, that’s not the point of the exercise. Then, I asked if they thought sleep was positive or negative? Excluding a bad dream, they all concluded it was positive. Right away, they started to get the idea that the entire day wasn’t bad. From there, I asked how many hours in a day were good. Finally, I asked them to think about how many hours in the day they laughed, watched good TV shows, or hang with friends or loved ones? They started to realize most of their day was spent doing enjoyable things, and they were letting the small, untimely inconveniences disrupt the rest of the day instead of enjoying life.

By giving these students a different perspective on their issues, they started to speak differently.   They would come to the group and identify the problem they were having, not just conceding the day because they had a few minor issues. My group was able to understand the power of words, and began to carefully express their negativity. After a few weeks of their transformation, I was told by one of the students they haven’t had a good two weeks in a row in a long time. They realized it was perspective.

Work Ethic: The Right Actions to Create a Successful Lifestyle by Pierce Brunson https://www.createspace.com/4786986

It isn’t what you say, it’s what you do that will create the life you want. The high school years are a great time for students to build valuable and rewarding action characteristics to increase self-esteem and deliver results. While enjoying these years, students should be developing the right mindset to achieve the success they desire in the future. In order for success to happen, for students to have that lifestyle they often speak of wanting, they must become adults with a solid, results-based work ethic. Wasting these four years can’t be a part of the plan. By using their time in high school to build the right actions for a successful lifestyle, students can ensure themselves a bright future, no matter the obstacles they will encounter. Work Ethic is for the high school student expecting to live life successfully, and is willing to do the right growth actions to shape a lifestyle of fulfillment, fun, and results.

Pierce Brunson http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B00I10A3XK , M.Ed., is a graduate of Temple University in Philadelphia, and spends his time working as a mentor and speaker while developing businesses that help improve the high school experience for students and teachers. He has over a decade of experience teaching in the public school system as a high school Social Studies teacher, majoring in World History and Sociology. Pierce believes everyone can do more to help improve the education system in their local communities, which is part of the backbone of any society. Pierce’s advice is simple: stop complaining and do something to help improve the situation. Good people have to stop being afraid to fight for what they believe in. Get in the game, help others, share culture and move the world toward equality and justice. Connect with Pierce at http://www.piercebrunson.com, http://www.fireflyeventphotography.com, and http://www.piercebrunsonphotography.com.

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Get Stuff Done

Chapter 17: Get Stuff Done

I never mind working, but even work has to be directed with purpose. As I sit and write this book, the rest of my family is resting. Granted, I get my rest in, but as much as I want to rest, I also know the importance of getting this book published. No matter how much I dream, I have to sit and get it done. There are times where I wish I could just talk it into existence, but that isn’t going to work for me. At some point, I would have to take the time and write the words. You can’t just hit the keyboard of your computer and expect to have a book written. Again, you have to focus, and type the right words. You have to know where you are going with the words. You have to physically get it done.

One thing that hampers students is perfection, or trying to be too perfect. Giving your best effort means that you are willing to give something extra that will help you achieve a goal. Many times, students will get caught up in trying to be exactly perfect that it stops them from acting in general. No one is good at doing things last minute, but funny how the night before an assignment is due you can make miracles happen. We have all been there, and waited until the last minute to do something. Think of all the things you do when you have to. Think of how you turn off your phone, computer, and other distractions to complete an assignment. You don’t work better under this pressure because it is just a false sense of hope. This pressure is helping you get focused. That last minute push to complete something is because you know and understand the consequences. You don’t like to fail, or look stupid, so you really push. This is what you need to be doing on a regular basis. Working ahead may not be your thing, so you will always need that push of the possibility of unwanted failure at your back. Not the best approach, so I suggest you just adopt the action of “getting things done.” Let’s go so far as to say “getting the right things done.”

Getting the right things done also means doing what will get you to your goal as fast as possible. While writing this book, I thought of the many schools and people I could send info to about it. I had to sit down and make a list of all the places and people I wanted to share my book with. Now, I could have just thought about and waited until the book was published, but I, too, will procrastinate, so I started telling people that my book would be out by a certain date and to look for it. Now, that is pressure because it takes time to publish a book, so the writing has to be done way beforehand. This date has forced me to get things done and focus on getting the right things done.

So from here on out…Get Stuff Done! Just do it and follow up. Don’t leave your energy in the hands of things that are taking away more than they are returning. Now, that doesn’t mean destroy all video games, and read books, but it means know how and what you need to do effects your day, year, and future. There was a time where I spend hours at a time playing video games and watching sports. Now, I really limit those activities so that I can produce these books for students. Call it sacrifice, or just call it what it is, getting shit done.

Need a process? Ask yourself these questions.

  1. What do I need to do today so that I accomplish my important goal for the week? Month? Year?
  2. If I did the really important stuff for two hours, how much time would I have to do the really unimportant stuff?
  3. If I don’t know what I want to do yet, is it really that important that I have a set of skills ready for when opportunity knocks?

Here are the questions that are on my phone that I use to check myself when times are really tough.

  1. If you quit and go back to where you were, will you get to where you want to go?
  2. If you quit, what you are doing now and move to something else will the process to success be any easier?
  3. Which is the better: action right now, quitting, or making a pivot?
  4. What pivot will move you closer to your goal?
  5. What action will move you closer to a sale or personal connection?
  6. When you accomplish a huge task and hit your “sweet spot”, will you see that all of this mess was worth all the effort?

This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014.  The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.

Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it.  During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible!  The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them.  Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.

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Resiliency Drives You Toward Success

Chapter 12: Develop Resiliency

There is this belief that paving your own way is hard. Nope, it is SUPER hard. You are coming from a place of unknowing and forging you way toward an expected result that is a part of who you are and how you will be in the world. There is nothing wrong with accepting the fact that this road will be filled with doubt, haters, and failures. On the other side, this road will also be filled with people that understand, want to help, and multiple successes. When the road gets bumpy, you have to get resilient. You have to stay the course even when all is doubt. In my many years of missing pivot points, I have learned one valuable lesson: you can only give your best, and the rest is up to all the other workings around you. In other words, even when I decided not to pivot correctly, and it set me back further than I imagined, the next day I still could only give my best from that point. Resiliency is sticking to your big picture even when no one believes in you. Make sure you get the help you need to make the best choices, but at the end of the day you get to decide if you continue on tomorrow. There are two methods I have for dealing with a road that becomes overwhelming: 1. I do some action that takes me toward my goal, and 2. I take a four-day vacation.

So, for action number one, when I wanted to do something great to improve the feel of high school, I developed Firefly Event Photography and Entertainment, LLC (www.fireflyepe.com) (www.fireflyeventphotography.com). The design was to positively impact every student at homecoming, proms, and graduations by delivering unlimited photography for one price, while allowing students to access and download the images for decades.. I built the business while  I was teaching, and after a year I decided to pursue  Firefly Event Photography full time.  I struggled to get anyone to speak with me the first year, and even missed our projected goal the second year. I had people that knew me and my excellent work ethic telling me no. I had long time friends not willing to help or listen to my vision. I was ready to give up and just go and get a job, but I remembered the reason why I took the risk and started the business. In the really tough times, you need resiliency to get through the moments that don’t go as planned. I write down all of my reasons for getting up daily and doing what I do. I keep this piece of paper in my pocket and as a .jpg file on my phone so, when I am thinking of giving up, I can just look at my original “why” and press on. No, it hasn’t been simple. At the beginning of any venture you fear the unknown and how bad it can hurt you. To me, that is false fear when it comes to your goals.  Imagine living with the fear of not doing? Now, I am only afraid of not doing what I feel I am on this earth to do.

I can’t tell you that this road will be simple as just building it and they will come. In fact, if you build it, more than likely your friends and relatives will be the last to come. People just aren’t that way. Things take time, and resiliency is a time-based perspective.

This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014.  The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.

Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it.  During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible!  The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them.  Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.

Direct Link: https://www.createspace.com/4626501

Follow this blog to enjoy more samples from the book.