Success Trait: Letting the Right People Help You

Attempting to be a success all alone will work for a while, but I have learned you can’t become the success you desire to be all by yourself. There will be times when you have to grind things out all by your lonesome. But then there will be the times when you will have to identify the right people you need to help your dream of success come true.

To put things another way, would you be in school if someone, years ago, didn’t send you there? Would you even wake up if someone didn’t demand you get your butt out of bed and be productive? Would you even be graduating if teachers didn’t beg you to learn the material so you can pass the class? Would you run as fast if a coach didn’t yell at you to get it moving? Would you swim so well if a coach didn’t scream for you to kick your legs for hours? Would you be playing that instrument if you didn’t have someone in your life demanding you practice until you have the notes correct? Trust me, you have had a lot of right people helping you. You need to view them as such. There is no way people become great in a void. There are only a few people in the history of the world so intrinsically motivated they kept fighting for what they wanted no matter what. Even then, they had something or someone earlier in their life who motivated them. The rest of us have to depend on the right people to help us get to where we want to go. The worst part about being outside of high school is you meet more people who tell you what you want to hear, rather than what is good for you to hear. Many of the high school teachers I know are good at telling kids what they need to hear. No matter how bad it was, teachers are excellent at assessing your situation and continually pushing you to be your best.

When I was coaching, there was no money for an assistant coach, so I had to do it all myself. Since, in a previous coaching stint, I had tasted the sweet nectar of being able to travel to a state championship, I wanted nothing less than that for my new team. During that time as a coach, I did it all by myself. I had very little help, not that I needed or asked for it. I developed the off-season training sessions and postseason workouts, I developed our fund raising program, designed new uniforms, produced all the game videos (you can view this on YouTube under “Pierce Brunson”), and planned senior night. My players had the luxury of just being players, and they excelled. After three years, we had a season that wasn’t up to my expectations and I burned out and quit. Without having the right people in my life to tell me to take a week and chill, I just walked away from the game, and I regretted that decision later on. I did my best to try to save face, but inside I was just bitter.

When you have the right people in your life, they let you be bitter, but they don’t let you do something stupid. They are there to tell you the truth and keep you from acting in a way you will regret.

Respect those working hard to put good information in your brain so you have more to think about than anger or bitterness. The right people will show up if you continue to respect what they are offering.

Let the right people help you with your school work. One of my favorite moments as a teacher is when a student that wasn’t doing so well in class made a decision to become a better student and put in more effort. As their behaviors changed, so did their friends. I noticed when the kids that weren’t doing great wanted to do better, they would ask the better students for help. Nobody is stupid. Once people decide to wake up, and live a successful life, they find any and every way to ask the “smarter” people. It’s amazing that students actually take good advice, but ONLY when they are ready. When you are ready to improve your efforts in life, you have to connect to the right people. You have to ask the students who are good at studying about their study habits. Just like you would find the information to improve in any area, when you want to study better to get better grades, you will find the right people.

By connecting to the right people, you are able to improve your efforts faster because they can tell you the right and wrong ways to study. You know by having better study habits, your grades have a greater chance of improving, so you have to connect to the right people. Connecting to the right people doesn’t mean becoming a burden on them so their grades slip. Your goal is to get enough information you can become self-sufficient, move closer to your desires for success, and, later, help others do the same. Just because you connect once doesn’t mean you will see instant results. Bad habits take time to get rid of. Be patient with yourself and your ability to make positive actions stick.

The above information is from the book Work Ethic: The Right Actions to Create a Successful Lifestyle by Pierce Brunson https://www.createspace.com/4786986

It isn’t what you say, it’s what you do that will create the life you want. The high school years are a great time for students to build valuable and rewarding action characteristics to increase self-esteem and deliver results. While enjoying these years, students should be developing the right mindset to achieve the success they desire in the future. In order for success to happen, for students to have that lifestyle they often speak of wanting, they must become adults with a solid, results-based work ethic. Wasting these four years can’t be a part of the plan. By using their time in high school to build the right actions for a successful lifestyle, students can ensure themselves a bright future, no matter the obstacles they will encounter. Work Ethic is for the high school student expecting to live life successfully, and is willing to do the right growth actions to shape a lifestyle of fulfillment, fun, and results.

Pierce Brunson http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B00I10A3XK , M.Ed., is a graduate of Temple University in Philadelphia, and spends his time working as a mentor and speaker while developing businesses that help improve the high school experience for students and teachers. He has over a decade of experience teaching in the public school system as a high school Social Studies teacher, majoring in World History and Sociology. Pierce believes everyone can do more to help improve the education system in their local communities, which is part of the backbone of any society. Pierce’s advice is simple: stop complaining and do something to help improve the situation. Good people have to stop being afraid to fight for what they believe in. Get in the game, help others, share culture and move the world toward equality and justice. Connect with Pierce at http://www.piercebrunson.com, http://www.fireflyeventphotography.com, and http://www.piercebrunsonphotography.com.

My YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/truthisnear17/videos

 

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Do It Alone, If Needed

There will come a point in your life when your success will be more important than the people you currently hang around, especially if they aren’t a productive part of your life. There will also be a time when you may be the unproductive part of someone’s life and you are let go. Then, there will be a time when the only thing you can do to get to your success is put in the countless hours alone writing, studying, developing, dreaming, and executing the actions that will help you become a success. I have met many students who desire to go to college to become doctors, and the number of hours alone they spend studying while in high school is incredible. It shows there is a good time for friends and there is a good time to work. It also shows their dedication to the bigger picture of their desired success. I think it is amazing to have that kind of drive while in high school. Most students are still looking for their fit in life, while these students are working to gain the knowledge to achieve their dreams.

What do you do when you have a dream and no one wants to be a part of it? What do you do when that dream is important to you, but the people around you can’t help you achieve it? You have to start out on the path alone. When I started Firefly Event Photography, I was still teaching and coaching at a local high school. After all of my duties at that job, and with my family, I was left with time from 10 p.m. to 2 a.m. to develop my business. At that time, Firefly was in the early stages, and I was reading and researching the right approach to a photography business. Those late night sessions were filled with optimism and frustration. Most of the nights, I was just scared I wouldn’t make it, even though I wanted to create a cool and profitable business. During these two years, I would read and write out my processes. I would schedule goals for the company and work to design the best practices. All this was happening while my family was fast asleep. Then, I would sleep for a few hours and get up and go to work. The best part about this time was I was so energized by my quest I didn’t feel bad for the loss of sleep. I was able to use what I had for the creation I wanted, and it got me to where I am today.

If you want something bad enough, you will have to sacrifice and spend some real time alone. This will be the best thing for your success goals. As you are developing, you are still working out issues that aren’t ready for the court of public opinion, so you need this alone time to grow a thicker skin.

Go it alone if the dream is that important to you. When you become a writer or business person, you will inevitably run into people who ask you for advice. I don’t mind, but I share things they have no way of knowing about due to the position they are in. When you start out, creating things and going for your success looks easy and you think you can do it better than others who came before you. This is just your mind playing tricks on you. I explain to those seeking advice that they must really want success in that area, or leave it alone. You really have to want it. There is nothing wrong with saying you don’t want much success. That is honest. The dishonesty comes when you say the opposite of what you really want, like you “say” you want success, because it is the right thing to say, but you really don’t. This type of dishonesty is a confidence killer. The issue is: How do you know if you don’t try? How will you know if a business is right for you, if you don’t start it? This is the part only you can decide. It is better to go alone and mess up your own situation than to partner and mess up yourself and someone else because of your lack of commitment.

If making better grades is important to you, you have to put in the study time, alone, without any distractions from others. If being better at a sport is important to you, you will have to be in the gym, alone, when others are out doing other things. If the dream and desire you have is that important to you, you have to, at least, give it a great try and see where this new thought process takes you. You will meet new people along the path who can help you, but if they aren’t around now, there’s no sense in waiting for them to show up. You don’t need anyone’s permission to start on a path to your success. Besides, no one is going to give you permission to be successful if you aren’t willing to give permission to yourself.

The above information is from the book Work Ethic: The Right Actions to Create a Successful Lifestyle by Pierce Brunson https://www.createspace.com/4786986

It isn’t what you say, it’s what you do that will create the life you want. The high school years are a great time for students to build valuable and rewarding action characteristics to increase self-esteem and deliver results. While enjoying these years, students should be developing the right mindset to achieve the success they desire in the future. In order for success to happen, for students to have that lifestyle they often speak of wanting, they must become adults with a solid, results-based work ethic. Wasting these four years can’t be a part of the plan. By using their time in high school to build the right actions for a successful lifestyle, students can ensure themselves a bright future, no matter the obstacles they will encounter. Work Ethic is for the high school student expecting to live life successfully, and is willing to do the right growth actions to shape a lifestyle of fulfillment, fun, and results.

Pierce Brunson http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B00I10A3XK , M.Ed., is a graduate of Temple University in Philadelphia, and spends his time working as a mentor and speaker while developing businesses that help improve the high school experience for students and teachers. He has over a decade of experience teaching in the public school system as a high school Social Studies teacher, majoring in World History and Sociology. Pierce believes everyone can do more to help improve the education system in their local communities, which is part of the backbone of any society. Pierce’s advice is simple: stop complaining and do something to help improve the situation. Good people have to stop being afraid to fight for what they believe in. Get in the game, help others, share culture and move the world toward equality and justice. Connect with Pierce at http://www.piercebrunson.com, http://www.fireflyeventphotography.com, and http://www.piercebrunsonphotography.com.

My YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/truthisnear17/videos