Resiliency Drives You Toward Success

Chapter 12: Develop Resiliency

There is this belief that paving your own way is hard. Nope, it is SUPER hard. You are coming from a place of unknowing and forging you way toward an expected result that is a part of who you are and how you will be in the world. There is nothing wrong with accepting the fact that this road will be filled with doubt, haters, and failures. On the other side, this road will also be filled with people that understand, want to help, and multiple successes. When the road gets bumpy, you have to get resilient. You have to stay the course even when all is doubt. In my many years of missing pivot points, I have learned one valuable lesson: you can only give your best, and the rest is up to all the other workings around you. In other words, even when I decided not to pivot correctly, and it set me back further than I imagined, the next day I still could only give my best from that point. Resiliency is sticking to your big picture even when no one believes in you. Make sure you get the help you need to make the best choices, but at the end of the day you get to decide if you continue on tomorrow. There are two methods I have for dealing with a road that becomes overwhelming: 1. I do some action that takes me toward my goal, and 2. I take a four-day vacation.

So, for action number one, when I wanted to do something great to improve the feel of high school, I developed Firefly Event Photography and Entertainment, LLC (www.fireflyepe.com) (www.fireflyeventphotography.com). The design was to positively impact every student at homecoming, proms, and graduations by delivering unlimited photography for one price, while allowing students to access and download the images for decades.. I built the business while  I was teaching, and after a year I decided to pursue  Firefly Event Photography full time.  I struggled to get anyone to speak with me the first year, and even missed our projected goal the second year. I had people that knew me and my excellent work ethic telling me no. I had long time friends not willing to help or listen to my vision. I was ready to give up and just go and get a job, but I remembered the reason why I took the risk and started the business. In the really tough times, you need resiliency to get through the moments that don’t go as planned. I write down all of my reasons for getting up daily and doing what I do. I keep this piece of paper in my pocket and as a .jpg file on my phone so, when I am thinking of giving up, I can just look at my original “why” and press on. No, it hasn’t been simple. At the beginning of any venture you fear the unknown and how bad it can hurt you. To me, that is false fear when it comes to your goals.  Imagine living with the fear of not doing? Now, I am only afraid of not doing what I feel I am on this earth to do.

I can’t tell you that this road will be simple as just building it and they will come. In fact, if you build it, more than likely your friends and relatives will be the last to come. People just aren’t that way. Things take time, and resiliency is a time-based perspective.

This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014.  The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.

Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it.  During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible!  The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them.  Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.

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Asking Boosts Success

Chapter 11: Ask (The Right People)

Many times we think we are alone in our struggles, however, we are not. It took me until age 40 to meet another person that had to deal with businesses and had the same passion I did for creating companies that solve problems. I don’t want you to take that long so you have to do one simple action; ask!

Here is a list of what to ask if you are stuck:

  1. How did you do it?
  2. What steps did you take?
  3. What books did you read?
  4. What mentors did you use?
  5. What dreams did you share?
  6. What failures did you overcome?
  7. Do you know anyone who…?

These questions are just a starter set. Add some specifics to your questions as needed. Don’t just ask anyone, but ask the right people.  No need to ask your teacher about being a doctor; if they don’t know one personally, that could be a waste of time. Find a high school mentorship program where you can talk with people and businesses that have a similar interest. The key is to ASK!

Asking holds you accountable. Why would asking the people who have come before you in a career or venture be great people to talk with so that you are accountable? One reason is that knowing people in a certain field is a way for you to develop the right skills to be successful in that field. Asking the right people about their struggle, success, and roadmap to their desired outcomes will help you see all of the methods and strategies needed to achieve something similar.  One thing that I have been able to do is sit down with a person and ask them about their multimillion dollar business. There is nothing more intimidating than sitting down with a person that has achieved so much monetary success when you are just starting out. I was able to listen to the things that I was told about how they attained their success, and how I could apply some of their ideas to my business.

As the meeting went on, I hung onto every word that was suggested.  As the meeting ended, all I could think about was implementing the strategies that were suggested. This is where the accountability comes in. If you are looking to become a better basketball player and you have the chance to sit down with the greatest player on earth today in a one on one meeting, and they gave you a few tips to help your game, what would you do? This is the accountability opportunity calling. If that player said MAKE 200 jumpers a day what would you be doing the next day if you wanted to reach where they were? If your answer is anything less than making 200 jumpers a day, then success may not be for you. The moment you think that a successful person’s way may not be for you, and you haven’t developed your own success yet, then you are just plain stupid. You bet I went home and told my team how we would work to add some of these elements to our business processes.

This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014.  The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.

Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it.  During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible!  The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them.  Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.

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Share Your Dreams for Success Inspiration

Chapter 10: Share Your Dreams

Share your dreams! Tell someone about all the things you desire to accomplish. Speak to teachers and counselors about all the things you want to take from a dream to a reality.

Here is a list of reasons why sharing your dream is important:

  1. You start to take responsibility for what you speak.
  2. You can see other’s reactions for your idea.
  3. You get criticism or support.
  4. You get over the fear of it being impossible.
  5. Your journey is starting to become a reality.

When I work with students we start by speaking our dreams.  As a coach, I would find out over time what type of player I really had on my teams. I could always tell if we would be successful or not by the way they would talk. Confident talk is important, and at times impressive, but the real words come after the statements of “confidence.” It is easy to just spout a goal as everyone is spouting, I have been there as a high school and college student, but as I started to speak of my real dreams of helping more than 100,000 high school students per year with my various entities, I started to get different looks. Those looks seemed to be attached to the following statements:

  1. Well, how are you going to do that?
  2. How are you going to get paid?
  3. The system is too corrupt; you will never make it.
  4. Good luck (sarcastic tone).
  5. Yeah, you would be good at that (dismissive tone).
  6. Yeah, but teaching is a steady paycheck.

As you can see, there were many that were not onboard with what I desired to do with my life once I could put it into words. You may experience some of this also. If you aren’t, then you may not be challenging yourself enough. There is a silver lining in criticism.

As I continued to speak my dream to others, I found out that some were starting to be receptive to what I was dedicated to working on. I found this list of results as I continued to share my dream with many people.

I was able to refine and stick to my desired purpose. As I would speak to many different people, I noticed that some would ask how it was going.  They would ask questions that made me think deeper about my general goal and direction. The best part is that many would offer some ideas that helped me to move down my path faster. They didn’t become teammates, but for that brief moment they were focused on sharing an idea that may help. At times, I had to be cautious because there would be ideas people were giving that didn’t quite fit what I desired. By knowing exactly where you want to go you can talk of your dreams, but also know when you should pivot toward or away from an idea.

Go Sightseeing for Success Inspiration

Chapter 9: Go Sightseeing

There will be times where all is going wrong and you may feel really lost. There will also be times where life is testing you really hard and difficulties are as regular in your life as breathing. You have to understand one thing about this life. Nothing is guaranteed. I know seeing many successful people make it easy to think that they didn’t have any hard times but I guarantee you this, the bigger the accomplishment, the bigger the chance they had to take. Those times, when all seems to be lost, are when you may have to dig in and do some real soul searching. Where you are during this time may feel lonely. You may feel like the most misunderstood individual in the world. You may have all the proof that your efforts aren’t making any headway. You may have to face missing your goals more than once in spite of working your butt off and being a person with great intentions.  During this mess you will have the best of all reasons to say “I did my best and it is ok to give up.” I ask you to take a step back from all the pressure and go outside. Go for a walk during the day in the sunlight and take a look at all the impossibilities all around you.

There are many things around you, that you use daily, that were created by people that as those things were being created were laughed at. These things at one time or another were “impossible” to everyone else but the person that took the risk to get it done. Take a walk outside to your nearest bridge. When was the last time you thought about it? When was the last time you were amazed by that bridge? Now look at that bridge again with this perspective. At one time in history the only way people crossed waterways was by boat.  Imagine having to take a boat every time instead of just crossing a bridge. Oh, how slow does that sound? What did a bridge do? It helped people cross over water from one land mass to another faster.  But there was a time where there were people that were against such technology. Fast-forward to the home computer; there was a time recently where people were against having a computer in their home. Wow, what does that say about your path? You will have the people that try to take away from your vision. When this happens, it is best to get outside and check out all of the things that people were told it couldn’t be done.

Skyscrapers are a great wonder. Now it seems as if they just build a building with little or no effort. It wasn’t always that way. Someone had to take a step out of their comfort zone and dream of a building that went above two floors.

When you get out into the world around you, your dreams seem possible because you are literally surrounded by dreams that have come into being by the dreamer and their team. Every business that you patron was once just an idea on a piece of paper. Really take a few moments to look at the world like this. Look at all the books in the bookstore. Someone took a chunk of time out of their lives to get that into print. They are people just like you and me that had a dream and got it done.

Your inspiration doesn’t have to be something so profound that you get lost thinking about it. Keep it simple. Look at the things around you and create a mental picture of understanding that there was a person at one time with a dream, and now it is there right in front of you.

This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014.  The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.

Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it.  During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible!  The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them.  Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.

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Pivot Toward Success

Chapter 8: Learn to Pivot

Learning to pivot on your road to success doesn’t mean you give up on your goals, or an intended outcome; it means that you may have to slightly adjust your direction in order to get to your final destination. If we take a look at all the things we have in life, there is constant pivoting to get a desired result. If your current course of action isn’t delivering the desired results, you don’t have to make a drastic course change, you may just need to pivot or tweak a few things.

I am writing this book as a pivot on my planned course of success. I didn’t personally plan on writing a book this early, but I met a publisher, Tara Richter, and she had this amazing process for getting a book published for very little cost by using today’s technology. If my plan to write a book was 18 months down the road, but Tara is here to help me accomplish it now, I would be a fool not to take some extra time out of my day and get it done. I already have on my plan that I want to write a series of books to help high school students and teachers. My main goal and focus in life is to make the high school experience more valuable, rewarding, and memorable for students and teachers through quality product and service development. After a long thought process, I know that I can now make a pivot and accomplish my goals way earlier than intended.

I define a pivot this way: a pivot is an action against the actions that aren’t currently working, that has to take place immediately so that you can continue to move in the best direction to reach the desired destination. A pivot makes things better not worse. A pivot may cause you to give up some extra personal play or rest time.

This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014.  The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.

Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it.  During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible!  The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them.  Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.

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Working for the Team

Chapter 7: It’s All About the Team

As you grow, develop, and experience, you will notice that the people you associate with can make or break you. Your team of people have to be the ones that understand your desired life outcomes.

Much of this book was developed because of the processes I learned from playing and coaching sports. The reason I like the pressure of sports is because there is only one championship that every team is fighting for. This makes everything you do very important.  As a coach, I knew I wanted to win a state championship. I knew that if I made the right actions as a coach, I would be able to develop the right players, and I could improve my chances of achieving this goal.

The biggest lesson I learned as a coach is that you can’t push so hard that you alienate your team. There is a perfect balance that must be achieved so that the team players understand not only what the goal is, but what is at stake if the goal isn’t attained.

Another issue is finding the right combination of players that desire to achieve this goal. Winning championships isn’t one of the wishes of a lot of players at the high school level. Many just like playing the sport, win or lose. Some enjoy the friends that come from the connections made through the sport. Leadership can only push so far before the players and their attitude win out. No matter how hard I would push, my players were only going to grow as far as they wanted. If they wouldn’t pay the price of dedication and development to a championship level, then you can’t expect a championship.

One of the best things I learned in my last season of coaching had to do with calling plays. That year, I honestly called great and timely plays, but the team just didn’t execute. That year, we lost more games than I had ever experienced as a coach. Conversely, there were years early in my career where the players would stay extra after practice to work on a few skills. That team ended up being ranked fourth in the state after a loss to the eventual champion.

What did I learn from those experiences? Simply put, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink. Now, both of these teams had excellent student athletes, good kids, and great parental support but when it came down to what they wanted, both were as different as night and day. The team I coached that went 14-1 hated when any team scored on them. They hated when they dropped a pass. They hated being late to practice. They hated missing practice. They hated anything that didn’t have to do with their individual success and the success of the team. My team that went 2-8 didn’t mind those losses as much as my championship team. I realized that most of the players on that team were there for the experience of playing on a team, and weren’t ready to accept the mindset to be champions.

Being a champion takes a lot of effort, and can be overwhelming to a core of kids that just want to play the game. My championship team was thinking about going to a state championship two years before they had their opportunity.

This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014.  The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.

Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it.  During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible!  The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them.  Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.

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Taking Action to Get Your Desires

Chapter 6: Take Action on Your Desired Direction

There isn’t a student or person that doesn’t want to find their desired direction in life. I can’t explain why some people just know when others don’t, but what I can say is that everyone has something they really want to accomplish or achieve. I really believe that every person has a purpose to follow while they are here on this earth. This could just be the teacher inside my heart talking, but there hasn’t been one student that I didn’t want to find their purpose in life. I know that when students do find their purpose, they will work harder and be more focused than ever. They will smile more and be better citizens. They will help others and share their knowledge. The good thing about every person finding their passion is that your community and world are rewarded by your presence.

Depending on the personal factors of health and abilities, every student has about 55- 80 hours per week to work, study, develop interests, and get involved in other commitments. This is a lot of time and we can get many major things accomplished if we use this time in focused action. A major portion of this time should be used to act on your desired direction. You may not know exactly what you want, but you do have some idea of the big picture. That is where your actions start. What are the big picture things you want to accomplish? Once you have an idea of those things, you can now start to ask more specific questions.

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How do you get to where you want to be when the path is foggy and the big picture is so far away? Well, if you know your big picture involves you being successful, then you need to act in certain ways during the path of the voyage that you can see. One of the major mistakes I made in high school was believing that I could just turn the success on and off when needed. That isn’t always the case. No one makes it through life without some intense sacrifice if they really want to accomplish something. If you feel that you may want to accomplish something, then you have to start to add a few things to your life that will benefit you no matter where you are on the path.

By acting on your desired direction, you prepare yourself to always act in your best interest toward success. This doesn’t mean that you never help others or lose respect for those around you, but it means that your mission is so important that it will lead you to helping more people as you achieve your personal goals. Some students tend to get stuck on the wrong actions. They are good at doing the actions that take them further away from what they really desire for their lives.  How many times have you decided to get involved in an action that you knew was taking you away from the path you really wanted?  Without trying so hard to be perfect, it is time to get on the track where your actions are moving you toward your desired life goals. As you ad this characteristic to your daily routine you will see that your successes aren’t as hard, or as far away, as they seem.

This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014.  The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.

Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it.  During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible!  The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them.  Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.

Direct Link: https://www.createspace.com/4626501

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