Success Trait: Letting the Right People Help You

Attempting to be a success all alone will work for a while, but I have learned you can’t become the success you desire to be all by yourself. There will be times when you have to grind things out all by your lonesome. But then there will be the times when you will have to identify the right people you need to help your dream of success come true.

To put things another way, would you be in school if someone, years ago, didn’t send you there? Would you even wake up if someone didn’t demand you get your butt out of bed and be productive? Would you even be graduating if teachers didn’t beg you to learn the material so you can pass the class? Would you run as fast if a coach didn’t yell at you to get it moving? Would you swim so well if a coach didn’t scream for you to kick your legs for hours? Would you be playing that instrument if you didn’t have someone in your life demanding you practice until you have the notes correct? Trust me, you have had a lot of right people helping you. You need to view them as such. There is no way people become great in a void. There are only a few people in the history of the world so intrinsically motivated they kept fighting for what they wanted no matter what. Even then, they had something or someone earlier in their life who motivated them. The rest of us have to depend on the right people to help us get to where we want to go. The worst part about being outside of high school is you meet more people who tell you what you want to hear, rather than what is good for you to hear. Many of the high school teachers I know are good at telling kids what they need to hear. No matter how bad it was, teachers are excellent at assessing your situation and continually pushing you to be your best.

When I was coaching, there was no money for an assistant coach, so I had to do it all myself. Since, in a previous coaching stint, I had tasted the sweet nectar of being able to travel to a state championship, I wanted nothing less than that for my new team. During that time as a coach, I did it all by myself. I had very little help, not that I needed or asked for it. I developed the off-season training sessions and postseason workouts, I developed our fund raising program, designed new uniforms, produced all the game videos (you can view this on YouTube under “Pierce Brunson”), and planned senior night. My players had the luxury of just being players, and they excelled. After three years, we had a season that wasn’t up to my expectations and I burned out and quit. Without having the right people in my life to tell me to take a week and chill, I just walked away from the game, and I regretted that decision later on. I did my best to try to save face, but inside I was just bitter.

When you have the right people in your life, they let you be bitter, but they don’t let you do something stupid. They are there to tell you the truth and keep you from acting in a way you will regret.

Respect those working hard to put good information in your brain so you have more to think about than anger or bitterness. The right people will show up if you continue to respect what they are offering.

Let the right people help you with your school work. One of my favorite moments as a teacher is when a student that wasn’t doing so well in class made a decision to become a better student and put in more effort. As their behaviors changed, so did their friends. I noticed when the kids that weren’t doing great wanted to do better, they would ask the better students for help. Nobody is stupid. Once people decide to wake up, and live a successful life, they find any and every way to ask the “smarter” people. It’s amazing that students actually take good advice, but ONLY when they are ready. When you are ready to improve your efforts in life, you have to connect to the right people. You have to ask the students who are good at studying about their study habits. Just like you would find the information to improve in any area, when you want to study better to get better grades, you will find the right people.

By connecting to the right people, you are able to improve your efforts faster because they can tell you the right and wrong ways to study. You know by having better study habits, your grades have a greater chance of improving, so you have to connect to the right people. Connecting to the right people doesn’t mean becoming a burden on them so their grades slip. Your goal is to get enough information you can become self-sufficient, move closer to your desires for success, and, later, help others do the same. Just because you connect once doesn’t mean you will see instant results. Bad habits take time to get rid of. Be patient with yourself and your ability to make positive actions stick.

The above information is from the book Work Ethic: The Right Actions to Create a Successful Lifestyle by Pierce Brunson

It isn’t what you say, it’s what you do that will create the life you want. The high school years are a great time for students to build valuable and rewarding action characteristics to increase self-esteem and deliver results. While enjoying these years, students should be developing the right mindset to achieve the success they desire in the future. In order for success to happen, for students to have that lifestyle they often speak of wanting, they must become adults with a solid, results-based work ethic. Wasting these four years can’t be a part of the plan. By using their time in high school to build the right actions for a successful lifestyle, students can ensure themselves a bright future, no matter the obstacles they will encounter. Work Ethic is for the high school student expecting to live life successfully, and is willing to do the right growth actions to shape a lifestyle of fulfillment, fun, and results.

Pierce Brunson , M.Ed., is a graduate of Temple University in Philadelphia, and spends his time working as a mentor and speaker while developing businesses that help improve the high school experience for students and teachers. He has over a decade of experience teaching in the public school system as a high school Social Studies teacher, majoring in World History and Sociology. Pierce believes everyone can do more to help improve the education system in their local communities, which is part of the backbone of any society. Pierce’s advice is simple: stop complaining and do something to help improve the situation. Good people have to stop being afraid to fight for what they believe in. Get in the game, help others, share culture and move the world toward equality and justice. Connect with Pierce at,, and

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