Chapter 12: Develop Resiliency
There is this belief that paving your own way is hard. Nope, it is SUPER hard. You are coming from a place of unknowing and forging you way toward an expected result that is a part of who you are and how you will be in the world. There is nothing wrong with accepting the fact that this road will be filled with doubt, haters, and failures. On the other side, this road will also be filled with people that understand, want to help, and multiple successes. When the road gets bumpy, you have to get resilient. You have to stay the course even when all is doubt. In my many years of missing pivot points, I have learned one valuable lesson: you can only give your best, and the rest is up to all the other workings around you. In other words, even when I decided not to pivot correctly, and it set me back further than I imagined, the next day I still could only give my best from that point. Resiliency is sticking to your big picture even when no one believes in you. Make sure you get the help you need to make the best choices, but at the end of the day you get to decide if you continue on tomorrow. There are two methods I have for dealing with a road that becomes overwhelming: 1. I do some action that takes me toward my goal, and 2. I take a four-day vacation.
So, for action number one, when I wanted to do something great to improve the feel of high school, I developed Firefly Event Photography and Entertainment, LLC (www.fireflyepe.com) (www.fireflyeventphotography.com). The design was to positively impact every student at homecoming, proms, and graduations by delivering unlimited photography for one price, while allowing students to access and download the images for decades.. I built the business while I was teaching, and after a year I decided to pursue Firefly Event Photography full time. I struggled to get anyone to speak with me the first year, and even missed our projected goal the second year. I had people that knew me and my excellent work ethic telling me no. I had long time friends not willing to help or listen to my vision. I was ready to give up and just go and get a job, but I remembered the reason why I took the risk and started the business. In the really tough times, you need resiliency to get through the moments that don’t go as planned. I write down all of my reasons for getting up daily and doing what I do. I keep this piece of paper in my pocket and as a .jpg file on my phone so, when I am thinking of giving up, I can just look at my original “why” and press on. No, it hasn’t been simple. At the beginning of any venture you fear the unknown and how bad it can hurt you. To me, that is false fear when it comes to your goals. Imagine living with the fear of not doing? Now, I am only afraid of not doing what I feel I am on this earth to do.
I can’t tell you that this road will be simple as just building it and they will come. In fact, if you build it, more than likely your friends and relatives will be the last to come. People just aren’t that way. Things take time, and resiliency is a time-based perspective.
This is a part of a chapter from my book Learning Curve: How to Prepare For Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going by Pierce Brunson. Every Monday and Thursday for the next 12 weeks I will share parts of the book starting today 3/17/2014. The next shares will come from my new book Rock The Crowd (Wednesday/ Friday Schedule starting 4/21/2014), a book that helps teachers give the best performances of their life as they teach their students.
Learning Curve: How To Prepare for Success When You Don’t Know Where Your Life Is Going is dedicated to helping the high school student that desires success in life but doesn’t know exactly what they want to do or how to do it. During this confusing and stressful time most students just pick a college major or get a job and just hope things work out. Well, that strategy is terrible! The best strategy includes learning and adding the characteristics in this book to one’s personality so that as the right opportunities come along the student can take hold of them. Learning Curve is the jumpstart information that helps teens prevent a lifetime of wishing, “if only someone would have told me”, once valuable opportunities have gone away.
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